Individuals

This overwhelming BEAST that doesn't ask for permission to show up. 

You cant always choose which emotions you want to feel. Healing from trauma can create freedom and space to feel the emotions you want to feel now.

I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFIT) and Attachment Focused Eye Movement and Desensitization Reprocessing (AF-EMDR) for trauma work.  

Have you ever heard that your body keeps the score of trauma. This means the trauma you experience is held in your body. Usually people learn to detach from the physical body by finding distractions and telling yourself "everything is fine" or "I cant change the past, so move on".

This can work for a time, until all of a sudden you have a panic attack or cant get out of bed and have no idea why. 

Healing from trauma is about exploring triggers, emotions, and beliefs you have about the trauma or a distressing event. Then you can learn how to give yourself what you need in the present time and change reactions in the future.  

Self Love

There is a big difference between self esteem and self worth/self love. 

There is a set of checklist items we use to navigate whether we are good or bad about how others see us and how we see our own self. 

How do you become grounded in life when you have not identified what your core values are and how to create goals in life that are genuine to who you are as a person. 

I will explore core values and ways to increase living in a more authentic and genuine way of being yourself. Loving yourself is easier to do when you can identify specific strengths and weaknesses. 

Shame and Guilt 

Most of us dont really understand self compassion. There is a big difference between shame and guilt. Shame will keep you stuck and feeling bad about yourself. Guilt allows you to learn and grow from a mistake.  

It is easy to get lost in perfectionism, live where fear drives our decisions, spend time managing everyone else to feel some amount of control, and never really understanding who we are on the outside of having a talent or this is my favorite food. 

Learning who you are as a person can heal and allow you to let shame go. 

Many people only know how to create motivation to be better and move forward in life from a place of criticizing self and shame. I work to help you change the shame game.   

Fears can run your entire life. Anxiety can range from a little uneasy stomach roll to a full blown panic attack. 

I will help you find ways to understand your main fears that increase anxious respones in your thoughts and body. . You will learn to identify and self regulate emotions. You can learn how to stop judging and controlling what you feel and use acceptance. I want you to feel more grounded inside, even if the world is in chaos around you. You cant control everything, but you can work on having better control over what you do with it.